VIP Member "Client" Etiquette

Want to know how to get the most out of your encounter? A key to unlocking the secret garden of companionship is etiquette. Having great etiquette tills the soil to plant seeds of passion by putting your partner at ease and building mutual-respect and trust. Below are some tips to encourage the best by being the best.

 

Before Meeting/Initial Contact:

  1. Do your research before reaching out to a provider. Read through their ad/social media you found them on and their website, specifically a FAQ if they have one. This will be where you find answers to the majority of the questions you may have prior to initial contact.
  2. Check meeting requirements; check rates, screening requirements, deposit requirements or contact fields required if they have them. If you are uncomfortable about any of these things, do not haggle, do not negotiate. Go back to step one and find a provider whose meeting requirements you are comfortable complying with and contact them.
  3. With initial contact, follow the preferred contact method. For some providers this is a booking form directly on their website, it may also be direct email contact with a list of things they require, a text or a call. It is best to only initiate contact when you are prepared to book, ‘carrot dangling’ appointments is not something anyone appreciates as admin work is uncompensated time in our businesses. If you are contacting outside of this reason it is best to see if they offer virtual/text based packages or send through a token of appreciation for answering questions or taking time to converse with you. This is always very appreciated.
  4. As you expect and deserve discretion, so do we. Do not approach providers you know in public or make it obvious you are staring. Do not look for, or add us on social media or anything not involving sex work. We are all individuals with full lives outside of this, just as you are.

Your date is booked, now what?:

  1. When preparing for your first meeting with a new provider, be aware that you are paying for time. Just because you are paying, does not mean that you are entitled to do whatever you wish. When in doubt ask (in person) what your provider is comfortable with, if they are not comfortable with something you’re interested in respect that.
  2. Just like any appointment, a provider books you for a time slot. If your appointment is 2-3PM, you should be ready to enter at 2 and exit at or before 3. It’s advisable to arrive 10-15 minutes ahead in order to give enough time to communicate and enter an incall location. While some may be able to accommodate a few minutes tardiness, generally your appointment ends at the booked time and be aware that cancelling last minute or missing your appointment altogether will damage your reputation and most likely incur fees.
  3. Incall locations are a great privilege and should be respected with the utmost discretion. Be sure to message on arrival to ensure your provider is ready to receive you and use discretion in common areas. If approached by anyone just say you’re visiting a male friend on a different floor. Get into elevators alone. If you’re bring a gift such as flowers, keep it concealed. And use quiet voices at entrances & foyers.
  4. Leave your provider’s payment at the very start of the date in a visible place, it is always appreciated not to have to ask for it. If in public be discreet, think; in an envelope, card, book or gift bag.
  5. Arrive freshly showered and clean (this is not a shower at 6:00PM when you took one at 7:00AM). Most providers have showers and all things necessary for you to freshen up when you arrive. If you are offered a shower, please take it. Just as you would want your companion to be in good hygiene the same is expected from you.
  6. Keep phones and electronics out of the bedroom. If mentioned, don’t be offended we are just looking out for our safety! Recording a provider without their knowledge is a crime.
  7. Respect boundaries, listen and watch for verbal and non verbal cues. And most importantly have fun!

Additional outcall etiquette to think about:

  1. Check if your provider is comfortable with in-home outcalls or if they’re only comfortable with hotel outcalls. If in-home, ensure you have fresh linens and towels ready.
  2. If you are in a hotel with key-card access only, be discreet in hallways and elevators.
  3. As mentioned above, keep phones and electronics stored and away from the bed. If mentioned, don’t be offended we are just looking out for our safety! Recording a provider without their knowledge is a crime.

Alternative points:

  1. If you are bringing a beverage to share, do not open anything prior to arriving. A small thought, but one that we all have to think about.
  2. If you are looking to post a review about your date, reach out to your provider beforehand or check if they have a “DNR/Do Not Review” policy. Some providers like reviews for business and marketing and some do not.
  3. Respect time, while it is not on the client exclusively to watch time, purposely staying longer or disrespecting time is not appreciated. If you want to extend in-date, just ask but be prepared to pay before the time is up, either in cash or virtually.

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