VIP Member Etiquette Guidelines

VIP Member "Client" Etiquette

Want to know how to get the most out of your encounter? A key to unlocking the secret garden of companionship is etiquette. Having great etiquette tills the soil to plant seeds of passion by putting your partner at ease and building mutual-respect and trust. Below are some tips to foster the best by being the best.

A Client’s Guide to Booking and Enjoying Time with a Provider

Helpful tips for a smooth, respectful and enjoyable experience—every time

Take a Moment to Read First
Before contacting a provider, take a few minutes to carefully read through their website, ad, and social media. Most common questions—about services, availability, screening, and rates—are answered there. Providers often receive multiple, sometimes dozens, of inquiries each day, so they design their websites to be efficient and informative, both for their own workflow and your convenience. Taking the time to read shows you’re thoughtful, considerate, and sets you apart as an outstanding client from the very beginning.
Know What to Expect—And Why
Every provider has a process that helps ensure both safety and comfort for everyone involved. This might include screening, deposits, or particular booking steps. These aren’t arbitrary—they help keep both you and the provider safe and ensure smoother experiences. If their system doesn’t align with your preferences, that’s a sign to keep looking for someone whose process works better for you, rather than asking them to change theirs.
Contact When You’re Ready to Book
Reach out only when you’re ready to move forward with a booking, and always use the method the provider prefers—whether it’s a contact form, text, email, or phone call. Avoid “just browsing” messages or casual inquiries. If you have more questions than can be found on their website, see if the provider offers a virtual consultation—or propose or send a small token of appreciation for their time and attention.

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Discretion Goes Both Ways
If you happen to see your provider out in public, simply respect their privacy by not approaching them. Don’t attempt to add them on personal social media unless it’s related to their professional work. Just like you, providers value their privacy and lead full lives outside of their business.

Once You’re Booked What Comes Next?

You’re Booking an Encounter—Not a Transaction
Your time together is an experience—something mutual, enjoyable, and respectful. You’re not booking a list of entitlements. If you’re ever unsure about something, just ask politely. Consent and comfort are always part of a great time.
Be On Time (Not Early, Not Late)
Providers often run tight schedules and rely on clients arriving on time in order to maintain a smooth day. Your appointment is for a set time slot—for example, 2:00–3:00 PM. That means being ready to enter or buzz at 2:00 and wrapping up by 3:00. If you’re late, please don’t expect that the time will be extended unless you’re prepared to offer additional compensation and please do not knock or buzz early without permission. It’s also good etiquette not to linger once your booking is over—graceful exits make lasting impressions.
Discretion at Incall Locations
Incall spaces are private, professional environments. When you arrive, send a quick message to confirm your provider is ready. Use a quiet voice in shared areas, enter elevators alone, and if you’re bringing a gift like flowers or wine, carry it discreetly. If anyone asks, “visiting a friend” is always a suitable answer.
Handling Payment Smoothly
At the beginning of the date, place your donation in a visible location so the provider doesn’t need to ask. In public settings, use an envelope, gift bag, or book to keep things discreet. This simple step builds mutual trust and sets the tone for a relaxed encounter.
Take a Moment to Freshen Up
Even if you’ve already showered earlier in the day, it’s thoughtful to take another shower right before your time together. Please use soap and rinse thoroughly, paying special attention to areas like the neck, armpits, chest, groin, foreskin, and buttocks.

Please avoid washing your hair—wet pillows aren’t pleasant to lie on.
Most providers offer fresh towels, toiletries, and a clean, comfortable space. Making use of these shows courtesy and care, and it’s always appreciated.
Put Electronics Away
For everyone’s safety and peace of mind, phones and recording devices should stay out of the room. This isn’t personal—it’s about protecting privacy. Recording someone without their consent is a serious violation and illegal in many places.
Focus on Respect, Communication, and Presence
Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues. Treat your provider with kindness and respect, and let the experience unfold naturally. Being present or mindful leads to a better experience for both of you.

Outcall Etiquette: the Provider is Visiting You

Know What They Offer
Not all providers offer outcalls, and some only do so for hotels. If you’re booking an in-home visit, make sure the space is clean, calm, and welcoming—with fresh towels and linens ready to go.
Be Discreet in Hotels
In hotels or condos—especially those with keycard elevators—discretion is key. Meet your provider promptly, use quiet voices in hallways, and avoid public greetings and drawing attention. A little consideration goes a long way in helping everyone feel at ease.
Electronics Away, Again
Whether the meeting is at your home or in a hotel, keeping electronics away remains important. It’s about mutual safety and ensuring you both feel relaxed and secure.

Extra Thoughtful Touches

Bringing Drinks? Keep Them Sealed
If you’re bringing a beverage to share, make sure it’s unopened. It’s a small but meaningful gesture that supports trust and safety.
Want to Leave a Review? Just Ask First
Some providers appreciate reviews, while others have a “Do Not Review” policy. If reviews are welcomed, keep them respectful, discreet, and focused on your overall experience—not personal details or bragging.
Be Aware of the Clock
Everyone’s time is valuable. If you’re hoping to extend your booking, ask politely during your session and be ready to compensate accordingly—whether in cash or through the provider’s preferred payment method.
Small Gestures Are Always Appreciated
Tips, gifts, thank-you notes, or even a kind word go a long way. While never expected, they show appreciation and leave a lasting impression.
Want to See Them Again? Make It Easy
If you had a wonderful experience, rebooking is often simpler the next time around—especially if you were punctual, respectful, and communicative. Great clients are always remembered and welcomed back.

Final Thoughts: Respect Leads to Great Connections

When everyone feels safe, valued, and respected, beautiful experiences happen. Following these etiquette tips helps create an easy, enjoyable interaction and lays the groundwork for genuine connection—whether it’s a one-time meeting or something ongoing.

Be considerate. Be clear. Be kind. It really is that simple!